"…For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…" -Ps. 139
I've watched a few episodes of TV's The Biggest Loser, so I'm familiar with trainer Jillian Michaels' chiseled physique and have even appreciated her heart behind the "tough love" workouts she and her cohort inflict on the winded contestants struggling to complete that last push up.
I've admired her. …Until now.
Last week she made a statement that I simply must contend with since it is regarding something so very close to my heart—having children. …Or, more accurately—being pregnant.
Jillian apparently told Women's Health Magazine that she would not "ruin" her body with pregnancy, but that she would adopt. (Jillian Michaels/AP Photo)
While I completely agree and advocate adoption—there are so many young people and children in our foster systems alone, who desperately need a loving home—I must take issue with Jillian's view of pregnancy.
It's not that she's wrong; it's absolutely true (because I'm speaking from personal experience) that being pregnant and carrying another human being inside your own body WILL CHANGE IT.
However, "ruin" is not the correct word.
Even now, as my two children are 26 and nearly 21, I can still (almost physically) recall that incredible sensation of feeling my baby move about in the womb, or the almost-imperceptible flutter of her hiccups, akin to the quiver of a tiny bird's wings.
Yes, there were backaches and swollen feet.
But, then there were moments, rocking in a chair, imagining this new little person who would soon be sleeping in her crib and what impact she would someday make on the world.
Or, just stopping to consider the amazing miracle that God was knitting this child together a bit more each day—in secret.
…My hands on my surprisingly expanded belly (nearly the circumference of a basketball!); praying for this little one. Headphones wrapped around my middle so he could enjoy some music.
Even childbirth—as hard as it is—there is nothing on this earth that compares to bringing another life into the world.
Oh yes, your body will most certainly be changed—but not ruined. Mine may not be back in the "pre-baby" shape it once was, but I wouldn't trade a moment of carrying my children in-utero for being in perfect shape. Not one.
In fact, there are actually physical BENEFITS to pregnancy…
Your hair grows like never before, you have twice the blood in your body so you're almost never cold, and naturally enhanced—well you know… but those are the obvious ones.
Did you know… (according to a Telegraph UK article)
-A pregnant woman's skin often creates its own moisturizer
-Some women with MS experience a remission of symptoms during their pregnancy
-Some women with Rheumatoid Arthritis also experience a remission while pregnant
Whether you stick with your decision to only adopt, or you eventually do become pregnant, Jillian, raising a child from a baby till the time they tell you they're "moving out" (like my youngest did last week), will be the most important and most wonderful thing you do… "ruined" body or not!
4 comments:
Thank you for writing this article. I felt the same way when I read the interview with Jillian. Being pregnant with my five children was the most wonderful experience and I wouldnt trade it for anything. I am glad to see your article share the positive side of pregnancy. Young women need to know it isnt just about the shape of their bodies. I so enjoy your articles and perspectives on life. Thanks again.
Not to play the Devil's advocate here, but we know too well how media can twist someone's words and the intended meaning out of context. Ms. Michaels made a follow up statement that she never said "ruin" or "won't" - and stated that there are actually some physical/health reasons that she does not go into detail about for her desire to soley adopt.
I have watched married friends have children, others that have been through miscarriage after miscarriage, and others who tried for years to then miraculously find themselves pregnant with twins.
Yes, bearing one's own is an experience like none other - I patiently wait for that to be true for me someday.
My heart is saddened for women who desire a child of their own but for what ever reason are unable to experience pregnancy firsthand.
I friended Jillian on facebook a week or so before the interview controversy arose. She informed her fans before the media did about what she had said. I must say many Christian women share the same views as Jillian, including me. I don't think it makes anyone a bad person. It's differing views. Jillian says her opinion stems from poor self body image and other undisclosed issues. Jillian didn't disrespect anything about the wonderful nuances involved in pregnancy. She simply doesn't want to forever change her body, which also defines her career.
You are so right! It is too bad Jillian has made this choice for whatever reason. The times I was preganant with my little ones was the most magical time of my life. I have many healthy friends who have gone through their pregancy looking great and fit and strong.
Thanks for sharing your perspective!
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